How happy are you in your relationships?  I’m not just talking about the one with your partner/spouse.  I’m talking about ALL of your relationships.

How fulfilled are you feeling?

How empowered and empowering are you feeling in your relationships?  Do they tend to inspire you…or, do they bring up feelings of dread, resignation, and staleness?

Are you feeling invisible and hungry to be wanted, cherished, appreciated, and really “seen” again?

Are you feeling like it’s time for your friendships that, hopefully, originally served as the basis of your relationships to be rekindled and reinvented?

You’re not alone

You’re not alone, and – for the most part – getting all that you want in your relationships takes practice, patience, a willingness to go way beyond a lot of comfort zones, and guidance.  It’s very hard for us to navigate our way out of relationship thickets without some help from time to time…without some good coaching.

You wouldn’t expect to become an Olympic athlete without a combination of natural talent and skilled coaches.  Why would relationships be any different?  Why would you expect to be able to become masterful at it if  you don’t know how.  Unfortunately, just reading a book, while helpful, won’t be enough.

Relationships are driven by energy, history, patterns, thoughts/beliefs, and emotions.  When relationships aren’t working, they’re not working because of ENERGY, most of the time.  That’s where I bring a great deal of skill to couples and other relationships.

You Have To Know The Energies Causing Relationship Problems

With my coaching, you learn to “read” the energies impacting your relationships, to clearly identify the patterns keeping things stuck, and how to pull yourself out of those patterns, beliefs, and behaviors to re-discover the soul, the vision, and the possibilities of your relationships in a way that re-ignites the juice that we all want in our relationships, be they personal or professional.

You will learn how to convert your understandings of the “What’s going on” into “What are we going to do about it and get things back on track?” Then, you’ll receive guidance, mentoring, and strategies to take into your  day-to-day life to turn theory into reality, in a way that ends up completely re-inventing your relationships with the highest good for all people involved.

In addition to my years of training and experience as a Relationships Coach & Counselor, I bring time-tested tools and perspectives that have been gifted to me from being in a 28-year relationship with my wife that has gone through any number of challenges yet continues to thrive, grow, and be a rich source of each of our connections to the best that love and life have to offer.

My relationships coaching services are available to romantic partners, friends, families, professional partnerships, and work teams.

Family-Of-Origin Reconciliation Coaching

You may be aware that your family-of-origin relationships are strained, and often in a way that they have been for decades, fraught with an array of conflicts that have prevented your connections with each other from being as rich, vital, and  fulfilling as you wish they could be.

So much of our childhood history and experiences end up impacting our adult relationships with our parents and siblings, frequently through unconscious reversions to all the energetic and relating patterns you grew up with when you were all living  with each other.  For many people, such repetitive patterns continue even if your parents are no longer here…you find you and your siblings continuing to play out all the same roles you did when you growing up together.

Using my experience  gained from helping hundreds of people over the last 14 years heal their individual childhood/adolescent wounds and patterns, you can take those awarenesses of your own into a healing of your own relationship with your family as a whole. You, your parents, and your siblings are not doomed to living the same relationship you’ve all had for years…it can be completely re-modeled.

The families I’ve worked with – parents and their adult children or siblings with each other – have all gone on to enjoy completely re-inspired, adult relationships with each other  based in present time, rather than being limited by old perceptions and old hurts that have hung on far too long.

If you are curious as to what this could look like, read the story below to get a sense of the possibilities.  Then, if you’re interested in exploring how this could happen for you, your siblings, and/or your whole family-of-origin, contact me to have a complimentary consultation about it.

This is from a woman I helped work on a deeply troubled relationship with her sister:

“It was Mother’s Day of  2009 when you began a journey, as our Coach, with my beloved sister and I to help us move through 40 years of family and personal crises.  By the time we began the weekend we devoted to seeking a solution to the decades of difficulty, my sister had already terminated our relationship.  This was devastating to me.

I spent one hour on the phone with you prior to coming to have you map out a “plan of action” to bring us together under your counsel and spend the time and energy to see if we could resolve old issues and put us on a new path.  In that one hour, I knew there was “hope” because of your skills in guiding me to the first weekend session which, after two full days, resulted in our new relationship beginning, which continues to this day.

Four months later, after hours of conference calls, homework completed by us, and following your instructions  (always given with love and an open heart), my sister and I have climbed a big mountain together.  We would not have begun the journey without your skillful talents so gently leading us to where we are now.

The work on our part may never end, but we know you are always there to help put us back on the right path.  Please know that there are not words to describe exactly how I feel, but I wanted you to know how much I appreciate all you have done.

My love for my sister and our relationship to each other is so very important to me.  This experience has not simply been a chapter in the book of our family life – it is a completely new book.  The pain that stayed in my stomach and the tears that I shed for many years, are gone.  They have been replaced with new understandings, new beginnings, love, and peace.” D.J., Austin, TX