To Be Or Not To Be – Can I Decide?

The average bear makes thousands of decisions per day, not to mention how many more are under our conscious radar. We’ve all had decisions that get us to go, “Oh my God, what was I thinking?”

We can’t undo the ones we’ve made in the past, be they brilliant or bonehead-ed. However, it’s never too late to improve the process, eh?

Below is a short piece on an exercise to do to sharpen your decision-making process and bases. It comes verbatim from one of my mentors, David Neagle (http://www.davidneagle.com).  I invite you to try it out.  Is it easy?  No, it isn’t…but then again, I’m beginning to realize that easy is WAAYYYY over-rated.  Enjoy and comment back to let me know how it works for you and what you notice shifts in your life!

“When I am personally in a moment of indecision, I use this exact tool to bring myself right in line with my purpose.

Get yourself a notebook that you can easily carry around with you. For one week, I want you to write down what your true motive or reason is for every decision you make. Yes, I mean EVERY decision!

It might look like this…

1) Decision: Get a cup of coffee,
Why: I love coffee, or because that’s what I always drink in the morning.

2) I get asked to go out to dinner.
Decision: I reply ‘yes’.
Why: So as not to hurt their feelings, but truthfully I would rather stay home.

3) I am asked if I can run an errand, or complete a project, for someone else.
Decision: I reply ‘yes’.
Why: I don’t want to let anyone down, even though I don’t have the time right now.

4) The family wants to go to Disney on vacation but I would like to go to Hawaii.
Decision: I agree on Disney
Why: in order to keep the peace and make others happy.

So many people are not happy, and yet they continue to build their fears, resentments and angers because they never express their true motives, intentions and reasons.

This might seem simple, but its wisdom runs miles deep.”

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2 Comments

  1. Sarah Miller says:
    February 15, 2010 at 9:04 pm

    How true! I tried making decisions based on what I wanted as my New Years resolution. It has changed some things including some relationships. I see some people reluctant to the changes I’m making. I have more free time ,but I find myself making decisions that satisfy me now rather than thinking about the future. I guess I’m relishing in my new found freedom.

  2. Geoff Laughton says:
    February 15, 2010 at 9:08 pm

    Thanks for the comment Sarah…good for you for following your core desire. It’s one of the difficult things about using our Spirit as our compass…not everyone’s going to like it. Some people will even try to get you to go back to being your incongruent self. Stick to your guns!

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