Geoff Laughton Presents: How to Become An Awakened Parent

Join your host Geoff Laughton as he talks with Denny Hagel & Benni Heacock they have extensive experience working with children with ADD & ADHD in the school system. they also homeschools her grandchildren. They will be sharing the importance of the role of parents in their children’s lives and how that role is changing due to the current awareness of the Universal law of attraction at work in our lives, thus incorporating the focus of Series I being on the parent. It is our passion to help parents teach their children how the law of attraction works and its power in their lives, in order to raise a generation of children free of limiting beliefs…children empowered to claim the life they were born to live, however, it is imperative that parents look at their beliefs and thoughts first.

Geoff Laughton Presents: How To Change Your Life & Your Results with Piya Khanna

Join your host Geoff Laughton as he talks with Piya Khanna, she is a change expert and Results Coach and help professional women to get the results they want in their lives by changing themselves and focusing on what they want. After working in Investment Banking in London for 10 years as a Change expert, mostly in Foreign Exchange eCommerce, I’ve brought my expertise to working with individuals and groups to help them live the lives they desire. - Everything is changing all the time, we just don’t know it - Change is not something that just “happens”, we can actually direct & control it - How things change depends on who we are & how we are being - How to direct & control change

Geoff Laughton Presents: Clear Your Energy & Electrify Your Business

Join your host Geoff Laughton as he talks with Amethyst Wyldfyre – The Energy Mastery Coach – she is a Multidimensional Visionary Healer, Speaker, Performer, Author, Teacher and Artist. She specializes in serving highly influential transformational coach/trainers, speakers, performers, artists and alternative healers to LEAP fearlessly into their highest level of service to the planet. • Understand your energy and how it influences your personal and professional success • Discover how to shed what doesn’t serve you in so you can serve yourself and your clients • Learn how to know when to act and when to be still so you can conserve energy and utilize it more effectively • Explore ways to set boundaries and say “No” fearlessly so you can free yourself to pursue your highest good • Learn how to tap into your own personal energy by paying attention to your own natural rhythms and cycles

Moms – An Often Thankless Job

I’ve spent the last 13 years of my life helping people heal their Inner Children, thus allowing them to live the adult life they’re really meant to live in a way that brings as much joy, passion, and inspired living as possible.  In the course of doing this for so many years, I’ve heard stories about mothers and fathers that, after first making your hair curl, would give you serious pause about whether or not you’d ever want to be a parent.

Yet, with even the worst of stories I’ve heard, I’ve always held to the certainty that very few parents ever woke up each day wondering how they were going to be able to torment and scar their children for life on that particular day.  Nevertheless, when your Mom and/or Dad aren’t giving yo what you need, or being the kind of parent you’d hope for, it’s easy – particularly when you’re a kid or teen-ager – to throw the parent out with the bathwater.

Mother’s Day is always a day where I do my best to re-look at all the value that my parents had, even in the midst of the many things I can see now, at 52 and as a parent myself, were major blow-it’s.

On this Mother’s Day, I’ve been thinking about how one of the most critical roles that mothers play in their children’s lives is to be the wise sage that recognizes, even at a very young age, the true character and potential in their children…and makes damn sure that their kids get that reflected back to them in such a relentless way that there can be little to no doubt in the child’s mind of who they are and what they’re capable of.

In thinking today of my mother, Victoria Laughton Carder, with whom I had a very challenging relationship, I got deeply in touch with how well and how often – in spite of whatever other shortcomings or mistakes that were hard for me to be with – she attempted to show me the potential and true quality of person that I was as a boy and now.

Of course, it was very confusing and wounding to have the paradox of praise and reflection often contradicted by shaming and judgment that could be part of her stock and trade.  But, over the 50 years I got to spend with my Mom, I can see now how much she really saw my uniqueness and tried to reinforce it more often than not.

In the midst of so much pain and  difficulty I went through growing up, there were moments of loving connection with her, especially at times when she would praise me or hold me to a higher-than-mediocre standard, that were simply sublime.  It is in remembering those moments that I not only get humbled by the sheer, stark magnitude of how much of a no-win job it is to be a Mom (or a parent, for that matter), in so many ways, but it’s still one of the most important games in town that deserves the recognition and gratitude that Mother’s Day attempts to encourage.

I’d even be bold enough to say (and am) that even the worst of mothers nevertheless gave a gift without which we could neither triumph or be able to complain about how short of the mark we may feel they fell in being the mother of our dreams.

I found two pictures of my Mom today that I had never seen before.  I’d already been feeling the low-aching sadness of her no longer being here to be able to call today, and ran across the two pictures you see on this posting, and was so moved to see that what I’ve taught to so many others was, indeed, true for me too…that, for all her shortcomings, I could not continue to really hold on to my hurt ego’s long-held assumption that maybe she didn’t really love me.  I know there are mothers out there who feel nothing for their children, but I contend they are the exception rather than the rule.

I invite you to look at the picture of my mother and I and see if you remember moments like that, at any age they may have occurred (including in your adult life), and if you can…give thanks for how those moments – even if rarely remembered – served to help you know what you need to remember today to continue living your greatest potential: you were (and are) loved, and perhaps your Mom, with all her imperfections, deserves the same…including, but not excusing, any of the faults or mis-behaviors.

In that Spirit, I honor and deeply love my late Mother Vicki…for all the times she drove me crazy, I’d take just about all of them if I could hold her in my arms, look her in the eye, and simply tell her how much I love her and appreciate all the good stuff.  If your Mother’s still here, consider not losing the opportunity if you haven’t yet taken it today or many other days.

Geoff Laughton presents: Courage In Tough Times

An Interview With A Pioneer & Author Of “Check Mates”

Today, I am happy to host Vrinda Pendred, Founding Director/Editor of Conditional Publications, a new independent publisher dedicated solely to publishing the works of authors with neurological conditions.

Their first book ‘Check Mates’ comes out on May 11,2010.

Yesterday Vrinda stopped by Lynn Serafinn blogs and if you missed it you can go here – http://lynnserafinn.com ; http://spiritauthors.com.

Today, however, I am blessed to have Vrinda making a stop at my blog to chat about and promote the launch of this ground-breaking new book.

This is the seventh stop on Vrinda’s 14-day Virtual Blog Tour to promote “Check Mates.”  What makes this book groundbreaking is that ‘Check Mates’ is a collection of short fiction and poetry either about, or inspired by, the struggle with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, all written by people with OCD.

It is arranged into two categories, Realism and Beyond. Whether solidly real, allegorical, or completely fictionalised, all the compelling work contained in this collection portrays the true story of this greatly misunderstood condition. It is also the first ever book of fiction written entirely by OCD authors.

I hope you will feel inspired by the interview you are about to read. If you do, be sure to sign up for the book launch reminder so you can buy ‘Check Mates’ and receive over 30 free personal development gifts on May 11,2010. To register, go to: http://conditionalpublications.com/pages/check-mates-launch.html (if you are reading this article after that date, you may buy the book directly from that page).

“To answer the first part, I have ready so many studies demonstrating that neurological disorders such as OCD usually come with heightened creative and / or intellectual abilities.  So, for me, it’s been a case of tapping into that natural artistic talent and trying to live through that.

It then becomes a situation where I’m making something positive from what can otherwise be quite debilitating.  I know so many others – including all those who contributed to ‘Check Mates’ – who have taken this attitude and felt it has been healing and cathartic.

Spiritually, what I would say, is that OCD forces you to contemplate and analyse subjects other people might not think about so much, such as metaphysics and religion.  My single worst obsession happens to be a preoccupation with death and ruminations over what sort of afterlife there might be.  It has, at times, crippled me emotionally.  But then again, it has also sent me on a path of inner searching.

Equally, the kinds of obsessive insecurities people with OCD often have can result in a strong sense of self-awareness due to the constant analysis of one’s own actions and thoughts.  Some people might then fall into a trap of self-hate.  But others might use this knowledge as a way of working on their weaknesses and playing on their strengths.  I think it all depends on what you do with this self-awareness.  OCD may try to attack us, but we hold the power to stand up to it and channel our own inner beauty.”

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Be sure to follow Vrinda to her next Virtual Blog Tour stop on Monday May 3rd, hosted by Miriam Scholzberg – http://liberatethetorturedsoul.blogspot.com

AND… don’t forget to sign up for the book launch reminder so you can buy ‘Check Mates’ and over 30 free personal development gifts on May 11,2010.

Just go to http://conditionalpublications.com/pages/check-mates-launch.html.

Doing so not only supports Vrinda’s pioneering effort in establishing Conditional Publications as part of her own expression of her passions, but also the incredible gift she’s providing for authors and poets who may have thought their neurological condition doomed them in some way to a marginalized life.

Please pass the word on about this book, and this inspiring publisher and author.

Where Does It Hurt?

I’ve learned that one of the most difficult parts of healing emotional pain is telling ourselves the truth that we have it…which is much easier to do when you know you’re in it.  The problem is that many people have no idea that they’re in pain; largely, this is due to the fact that we get so used to suffering that we lose our clarity on our own distinction of what’s pain and what’s business as usual.

So, I thought I’d just offer up some symptoms that indicate you’re in emotional pain that’s coming up for you to be able to heal it by feeling it:

• You’re in physical pain for no apparent reason
• You lose your compassion for others
• You go hours at a time without noticing that you’re breathing shallowly more often than not
• Your physical universe contracts (e.g., everything feels like it’s hard (and is), money suddenly gets tight, things appear to “get taken” from you)
• You abandon and/or get sloppy with your Spiritual practices
• You feel depressed most of the time, suddenly and without any obvious thing about which to be depressed
• You feel in constant overwhelm
• You get introverted & isolate yourself
• You have frequent inexplicable irritation
• You feel victimized by life and even your best friends (they’re always wrong & you’re always right is a symptom of this)
• You get forgetful when you usually have a mind like a steel trap
• You’re not feeling anything